Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Becoming An Adult

My wife and I were chatting about money one day. It's a frequent touch point: the everlasting discussion about money. My daughter was with us, and she asked "Is this all adults talk about? Money?"

"Well, we talk about you a lot!"

All kidding aside, it's an intriguing question. It made me glad our kid was interested in us adults. She'll be one soon enough.

I remember the exact moment in which I truly felt like an adult: at the real estate closing for the house where we now live. I sat at a table with a few lawyers, the current owners, and some real estate agents. My wife was there too, and maybe she felt the same way: "I'm doing an adult thing here!"

We decided on a house in November 1996 and closed in March 1997. Along the way we had to make lots of decisions. We had to hire a lawyer, sell a bunch of stock, figure out the inspection process, buy furniture, and lots of other tasks that I have now forgotten. All of this may sound like run-of-the-mill bureaucracy but the closing felt like momentous occasion.

While it may seem that adults only talk about money, in reality what adults talk about are decisions. That's the essence of adulthood: decision making. Small decisions. Big decisions. Inconsequential decisions. Humongous decisions.

These decisions become your history and experience, and that helps because decision making never ends. Spend a few years making decisions and you'll be talking like an adult before you know it!

Sunday, May 31, 2015

Neal Stephenson

I attended a book signing event for the author Neal Stephenson. His new book Seveneves was just released, and he was on tour promoting it.

He's written over a dozen novels. I have read only two, but they were memorable and impressive to me. The first one that I read was Snow Crash. The first chapter alone was enough to make me a fan. He wrote that the core competency of the future United States was pizza delivery. The second book was Cryptonomicon, a multi-generational epic about code, cryptography and the ties that bind.

The question and answer session with Neal was fascinating. He fielded a handful of questions about his process as a writer, and I had the feeling people were taking notes. (I certainly was.)

He dispelled the notion that he does a lot of research. "Real researchers would be horrified at what I do for research," he said. The way he gathers ideas is more like strip mining, he joked.

He said that planning out a novel is not the best way to write. The time you spend planning is very short compared to the time you spend writing. Be open to new ideas as you write, he suggests.  He did say that it's helpful to have a general idea of what you want your characters to do. (In the acknowledgements of his book, he said it took him seven years to develop and write his latest novel.)

When it came time for the book signing, a line quickly formed with what seemed like 200 people. Some had copies of his older books, and some had his new book. By the time I got up to him, I was in such a dazzled state that I didn't say anything as he signed my book. "How are you?" he asked. I blurted out that I was fine, and then said I was a big fan. "Well, I hope you like this book then." I've read the first 100 pages, and I think I will!

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Some YouTube Favorites

My YouTube favorites channel has almost 150 videos on it. I added one a few days ago, and that made me realize I haven't shared this list on my BLOG. In no particular order, here are some of favorite YouTube videos.

1. Bread and Milk. Oh, this is funny. This was the video I added this week, after getting another Vic DiBitetto video of his forwarded to me. It perfectly sums up the craziness of last Winter and his expression is spot on.

2. Risitas - Las Paelleras (Original video with English Subtitles). The hysterical laughter from Risitas and the rapid-fire Spanish are usually shown with comical subtitles to hilarious effect. This is the original conversation, and Risitas' laughter plus Jesus Quintero's great reactions are excellent.

3. Los Santos By Night - GTA V PS4. The groove of the music (50's Manhattan by Jesse James) and the perfectly chosen images from Grand Theft Auto V by The XXI make this a go-to-video of mine. Dark, rainy, murky atmosphere.

4. Star Wars without John Williams. That final scene of Star Wars IV is a rousing medal ceremony, and it's a great finish to that great movie. This video replays it without any of that rousing music, and the effect is startling and a bit funny.

5. GoPro on the Ice: Sidney Crosby. I've always wondered what a great ice hockey player sees when they're skating and handling the puck. This is it. Very eye-opening. (The one with PK Subban is possibly better, but the puck handling by Crosby is sick, as the kids say.)

6. Time Lapse of a Television Editor. I've always harbored the idea of becoming a film or television editor. This time-lapse shows just how difficult and tedious that job might actually be.

7. Joe Bonamassa Guitar Jam With Michael Casswell. This is for guitar geeks only. Joe Bonamassa is a master guitarist, but the generosity with which he exchanges riffs with Michael Casswell is perfect. His compliment at the end is just great.

8. Crazy Koala Fight. Koalas! So serene and gentle. But apparently they snarl and get into fights. The reaction from the person recording the video is amusing, and the sounds at the end are actually frightening.

9. The Dark Knight Trailer Recut - Toy Story 2. What YouTube favorites list would be complete without a mashup? This is my favorite one: mixing the solemn audio and sound from The Dark Knight with the bright and cheery images from Toy Story 2. This is epic.

10. Undercover Karaoke with Jewel. How would a successful singer perform in a Karaoke bar? Jewel and the team from Funny or Die show that a modern pop star would blow away the amateur performers.

Saturday, March 28, 2015

Memories of Holding a Baby

The last time I held a baby was November 2013. The baby was my wife's cousin's child, a boy just a few months old.

My wife's cousin was in town for a reunion, and there was a mini-party at her parents in Connecticut. When her twin baby boys woke up from napping, they were passed around to adoring uncles and aunts and cousins.

I was thrilled when I had a chance to hold one of them. I was slightly terrified, but I had been hoping for a chance to try. Did I remember how to hold them right? Would the baby start crying?

The heft of the child was incredible. How does 8-10 pounds of baby feel so heavy? The little boy grabbed one of my fingers, and began to gurgle. I made some coo-ing noises. He began to squirm. I put him up on my shoulder. I felt like I might cry.

"I'm getting emotional here!" I said, smiling before handing him back to the father.

I remember that my daughter was recording some of the festivities on her iPod that day. My daughter! Fourteen years ago I held her for the first time, when she was born.

This past week, I asked her if she had video from that party in November 2013. She found it on her computer. We watched a few seconds of my wife holding one of the twins. No video of me, though (I looked for it later). The memories will have to do.

Friday, February 27, 2015

Remote Starter

From the second floor office where I work, I can turn my car on, using a remote starter. The tinted office window overlooks the parking lot, and I have a line of sight to my car. I see the headlights indicating that the car started.

The remote starter was a gift from my wife. Her car had this feature, and I wanted it for my car. It helps when the weather is cold. We don't have a garage, so it saves us a trip outside to get the car warmed up. It feels like an indulgence, having a running car to step into!

Over the past few evenings, I've noticed people walking by my car as it turns on. I often wonder if they're surprised at a car turning on by itself, but they don't break stride to look around. To be considerate, I sometimes wait for them to pass my car, so they're not startled.

I don't use the remote starter when the weather is warmer. I can't wait until then.

Thursday, January 29, 2015

My 2014 Books and Movies

The list of 29 books I read last year are on LibraryThing. I also started an account on Goodreads, where I hope to keep the lists in sync.

I read a lot of good books in 2014. Some highlights include Cryptonomicon (Neal Stephenson), CivilWarLand in Bad Decline (George Saunders), Trapped Under the Sea (Neil Swidey) and Collision Low Crossers (Nicholas Dawidoff).

The book that really affected me this year was Adrift: Seventy-six Days Lost at Sea (Steven Callahan). This is a survival story, but Callahan really elevates his tale of struggle by uniting his survival to the mysterious and sometimes benevolent creatures of the vast sea. His story of resilience, despite the frightening and perilous conditions, was very inspiring.

The list of 12 movies that I watched last year are on IMDb. As a family, we got to see big titles like "Divergent", "The Maze Runner", and "The Penguins of Madagascar". The big bucket-list worthy movie that I saw was "Gone with the Wind". I also saw "Life of Pi", which features a fictional survival story of a boy lost at sea. (Steven Callahan was a consultant for this movie.) My favorite movie from 2014 was "Taken". Liam Neeson is dynamite in this incredible action movie!

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Seeing Beyond Ourselves

I'm reading the book "The Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace" by Jeff Hobbs. Set in the late 1980s, it describes the life of Robert Peace, who managed to leave his inner-city life in Newark, NJ, and attend Yale University. Unfortunately, he died in a drug-related shooting after he returned to Newark.

In the chapter I just finished, Robert's mother Jackie heroically manages to get her son out of public school and into a Catholic private school. It was a long road for her. She first attended a training program for six months. Sacrificing time with Robert, the program got her into a better paying job. She then took on a second job, and after two years of long days she was finally able to send her son to a private school.

Leading up to this moment, Jackie was concerned about being considered uppity. The author writes "being known by this label meant that you thought you were better than everyone else around you, that you deserved more..." But Jackie wanted her son to be among people "who saw beyond who and where they were."

I put the book down at this point, struck by the idea of seeing beyond who or where you are. I thought about the power and commitment of Jackie's striving. I thought about being uppity.

This week is when most people reflect on themselves and where they're at. We close the door on 2014, and hope the door that's opening in 2015 is somehow better. The secret is that every action and decision we made in 2014 has led us to the very door that's opening tomorrow.

New Year's Eve is the perfect time to remind ourselves that the first step to "better" is to see beyond ourselves. Then, like Jackie, the next step is to take action.